If you blame someone else,
there is no end to the blame.
#LaoTzu, Tao Te Ching (public library) (free ebook)
Age-based shaming is just another way to keep one group of people angry at the other (your birth year turns into your sports team).
Fabricated generational hate creates the illusion of divisiveness to distract from real-world problems. It works by emphasizing subtle differences over relevant common ground.
News titles mixing generational hate and accusatory lines are cheap journalism. They fuel angry arguments whose only function is to gather more clicks and attention.
“Ok Boomer” is not different than shitting on “Millennials” (arbitrary labels in first place). One day, “Ok Boomer” will become “Ok Millennial”, “Karen” will be replaced by “Ashley”, or “Matt”.
“Why didn’t you notice that tech can be such a destructive force?”
Of course we didn't want to fuck something up for the next generation. Of course!
But we will. We are, now.
Can entire generations actually be in charge and held responsible of the future? Or is this idea an ultimate attribution error, where we ascribe the actions of few powerful ones to a wider (and much less powerful) group?
You have already been casted into social roles that you didn't ask for. Think about your gender, sexual orientation, skin color, religion, country, etc.
We can't keep increasing the number of Commedia dell'Arte characters to simplify how society really works.
And, whatever core of truth some stereotypes might hold, it's up to us to confirm it or to subvert it. It's certainly up to us to avoid one more version of groupthink and herd behavior to divide us.
Eliminating imaginary opponents is not required to achieve social change. Recognizing common ground is.
Satire, free will, visual metaphors, Jim Carrey, and everyday heroes.
This is the full transcript of my interview with Cinedicate, a podcast sharing hidden movie gems by revisiting them through a conversation (for both old and first time viewers). I picked one of my favorite movies... The Truman Show.
The show just launched, hosted by Armand: read it, listen to the audio, or subscribe via RSS, Apple, Google, and Spotify.
Publication date: 2020-10
ⓘ Transcript slightly edited for clarity.
Armand (host): What was your first impression when you saw The Truman Show for the first time?
Sim (guest): I actually remember being fearful of it, from the trailer.
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Friends panic when they glance at my inbox and notice tens of thousands of unread/unopened messages. They want to stay productive, and Inbox Zero might give them the impression to do so.
But it doesn't: about a decade ago, after noticing the insane amount of time I had to invest to keep my Inbox/text messages queue clean, I started ask myself “Why?”. Now, thinking about all the time people spend to keep their inboxes to zero makes me panic.
What's the real advantage?
I see no benefit from cleaning up every uninteresting piece of text/spam I receive, only a tremendous loss of time that you can reclaim if you just accept the fact that inbox numbers mean nothing. It's just another attention-stealing red sticker badge and, as such, I believe you should disable it, forget it, and never look back. It's much more effective to use separate aliases (one, for example, shared only with real human beings), and plus addressing.
I hide badges, and I simply forget about text messages/emails that did not deserve my actions in first place. Every action I do not take is more time, attention, and mental energy available for better goals.
You have no control over your incoming messages: spam, useless chats. So I stop trying to control them or let them use your time.
This approach is the opposite (and the same) of Inbox Zero. This approach is ∞ Inbox.
It requires a deep breath, ignoring numbers, and realizing that, in the end, zero and infinity are both undefinable.
I reached a point in my life where I could buy enough of something and reasonably expect it to last until I die. Not a 4-pack of AA batteries or a single banana (well, I hope not) but something like shoes, or a colander. Mundane stuff.
How many pairs of shoes do you think a man in his 30s could ever need from today until he's done? 20? 30? 50?
Let's say that:
- I go through 1 pair of gym shoes every 2 years.
- On average, males live ~77.5 years.
Barring tragedies, and considering an average life expectancy (things I can't control), that's about 22 pairs of shoes.
I could walk out of a store, today, with 22 boxes of sneakers—retail workers assuming I manage 2 sports teams—and sing: “Boom. Last time I buy shoes. Fuck it, fuck shoes. I'm done with buying shoes. Never wanna think about shoes again”.
On a certain level, this thought feels oddly nice because it's liberating (“Fuck it: done with laundry quarters. I went to the bank and got $2,000 in quarters.“).
I'm not sure I ever want to get to the phase where I can play with this mental math using napkins, AA batteries... or a single banana.
But that's it: you will get to a point in your life where objects will last longer than you do.
So, the solution is: always buy really good batteries.
I got a $70 iPhone SE and upgraded the battery with a nominal 2180 mAh one (the original had 1624 mAh of capacity). Then I added Qi wireless charging with an adhesive tag that lives between the case and the phone's back chassis (connected via the Lightning port). How about performance?
After a few cycles and tests running iOS 13.5.1, the 2016 SE effectively streamed YouTube videos for 12 consecutive hours, at max brightness. I'm very happy and hardly miss the iPhone X (swipe gestures would be nice, and the OLED display maybe). The surprise was how well it handles iOS 13, plus rediscovering the form factor: easier to handle and to grip on. When I bend to tie my shoes, it doesn't perforate my rib cage from the pocket like a Pro Max would. I also found that, in my case, the SE complements the iPad Pro 12.9” fantastically (aesthetics and screen size balance between iOS devices).
Adding Qi wireless for charging was easy and, so far, stable: I did not notice any qualitative speed changes from the iPhone X's charging behavior.
Total investment: ~$98. The best part? I can plug in my IEM monitor headphones through the 3.5mm headphone jack, while this thing also supports AirPods/Pro (minus sharing audio with friends for simultaneous listening, but I didn't even know that was a feature...).
I upgraded to every new iteration of the iPhone from the original 2007 model up to the X. After that, I became more mindful of the added value I received from the investment, and the way I use the device itself has changed.
After the X abandoned me, I thought I'd wait for the smaller iPhone 12 to be released. It looks like I might keep this modded original SE longer than I intended to. I wonder how many other people also slowed down their upgrade cycle during the past few years (and why).
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- Battery Link
- Qi Wireless Tag Link
A couple more things: some user reviews seem to have reported problems with these: so far I had absolutely none. Also, replacing the battery wasn't exactly the easiest thing in the world, but doable with basic skills and an iFixIt video. The adhesives behind mine were very dry. Once you complete this step, I suggest to completly drain the battery, then recharge it to 100% and do a hard reset (Power Button+Home).
If you are not confident about opening the phone: don't do it. It's not a user-replaceable part according to Apple, and you should understand the risks connected to it.
There's no secret to self-improvement. I can think of a few ways why other people might be making more progress than you do.
- Being a non-judgemental observer, especially of yourself. Observe, adjust, evaluate results.
- Don't care about other people's opinion, unless constructive.
- Understand that you are competing against yourself, not anyone else.
- Persist beyond disappointment.
If you succeed, let me know how you did it.
I remember having free, unallocated attention dedicated to myself and my surroundings. Alone with my thoughts during walks, car and train rides, or even at home. Inescapable boredom and anxiety force me to deal with myself, but they are also the primary source of intense relax as a break from responsibilities.
I see boredom as the absence of intentional entertainment and amusement (and constant connectedness hinders that). I often think about this quote from the movie Network (1976):
The world is a business, Mr. Beale. It has been since man crawled out of the slime. And our children will live, Mr. Beale, to see that perfect world in which there's no war or famine, oppression or brutality — one vast and ecumenical holding company, for whom all men will work to serve a common profit, in which all men will hold a share of stock, all necessities provided, all anxieties tranquilized, all boredom amused. — Arthur Jensen
What kind of person would have I become if the intimacy of boredom and solitude were stripped from my formative years? Would have I had the chance to face and confront fears and anxieties about myself? Am I missing any now?
Smartphones are actually tremendous meditation devices. Observe and master every moment that boredom makes you reach out to your pocket, and you’ll blast through Nirvana in no time.